How To Find an Egg or Sperm Donor Who Fits Your Family's Traits

Your desire to match with an egg or sperm donor who physically resembles your family is not out of this world. In fact, our Donor Concierge case managers are well-versed in walking families through the process of finding egg and sperm donors who are available and aligned with many of their preferences. So, if you walk in with questions like, “Can we find a blonde, tall, and beautiful egg donor?” or “Is there a way to find a sperm donor who is tall, handsome, and brunette?” rest assured that our case managers know which direction to point your search. 

But, the path to getting there? It starts with having one-on-one conversations with yourself and your own family. Doing the work before you even step into a meeting with your case manager will give you the upper hand as you start your donor search. 

Here’s how to start that self-discovery process and what comes next in your journey to finding a donor with specific physical traits from height to eye color to skin tone. 

Think about all the different physical traits that run in your family.

Take a few minutes to think about your family and potentially your partner’s family. What physical traits does everyone share? Are there any physical traits that your sibling, cousin, or aunt has that make them unique? Maybe one family member is taller than the rest, or someone has curly hair while everyone else has straight? Maybe you want a petite egg donor because everyone in your family is petite. Your ideal egg donor type may be blonde, beautiful, or even athletic.

Jotting down these shared and unique physical characteristics helps set the tone for a simple truth—family members come in all shapes and sizes, and ultimately, you want to find a donor who looks like they could fit into your family. While your case manager will try their best to find someone who matches your preferences, there’s freedom in allowing for unique qualities to surface in your search.  

List your must-haves versus your nice-to-haves .

Before meeting with your case manager, collecting all your thoughts in a single place can be helpful. Try to make your must-haves shorter than your nice-to-haves. Throughout your search, your case manager will encourage you to be open to various physical characteristics to widen the choice of egg and sperm donors they may present to you.

The narrower your search criteria are, the fewer egg or sperm donors will fit the bill. There are very few tall, blonde, genius, professional model egg donors.

The more you know about the kind of donor you want, the easier it is for your case manager to send you a list of attractive donors who match some or most of your preferences.

Understand the criteria Donor Concierge uses to lead searches. 

Each family’s search is different. You may be looking for a petite egg donor, while another family is searching for an athletic sperm donor. Your case manager will bring not only the decades of experience that come with working at Donor Concierge, but also an open mind—understanding that your path and search are uniquely your own. Throughout the process, they can help narrow your options based on criteria like body type, height, and even blood type.

While there is no guarantee the search will yield a donor who meets every preference, your case manager will always be honest and forthcoming with information and insight. 

Share your preferences with your donor case manager. 

During your initial meeting, you will complete an intake outlining your desired physical characteristics in a donor. At Donor Concierge, we encourage you to find someone who looks like they would fit into your family. That may mean that they find a tall egg donor or a donor with the same skin tone or hair color as you or your partner. Your donor might look like they could be your sister, your cousin, or your uncle. Your case manager can’t find someone who looks exactly like you or your family, but they can come close.

Your case manager will also ask to see photographs of you, your spouse, and other family members to help get a sense of the physical traits that run in your family. Consider your case manager a third set of eyes who can draw lines between the characteristics that pull your family together and the traits that help your family members stand out individually while still knowing they belong. 

Starting your donor search is such an exciting (and admittedly overwhelming) time. You can trust that your case manager will be there every step of the way, even as you think through what donor physical characteristics and personality traits are most important to you. 

Ready To Find a Donor Who Feels Like Family?

At Donor Concierge, we’re here to guide you through every step of the process with compassion, transparency, and expertise. Whether you’re hoping to find a donor who shares your family’s defining features or simply want help navigating your options, our experienced case managers are here to support you. Request a private consultation today or call us at (415) 663-6097 and take the first step toward building the family you’ve been dreaming of.