How Surrogacy Matching Works
If you've been searching for a while without finding the right fit, it's rarely because the right surrogate doesn't exist. It's because one agency's pool is too narrow to reach her. Most intended parents find their surrogates through a surrogacy agency. Your agency recruits and screens qualified candidates, then introduces you to surrogates whose preferences and goals align with yours.
While some intended parents may find their match with an agency, it can often take several months, if not more than a year, to find the right match. Donor Concierge expands your reach, manages the search for you, and helps you explore more possibilities without losing sight of what matters most to your family.
Where the Surrogate Matching Process Falls Short
Finding the right surrogate involves more than reviewing profiles. Whether you are just beginning your search or have already spent months contacting agencies, we can help you move forward faster.
Challenges of a Traditional Agency Search | How Donor Concierge Helps |
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Limited availability: Qualified surrogates are in high demand, and candidates may become unavailable quickly. | A broader search: We search across a network of more than 80 established agencies rather than limiting you to one candidate pool. |
Specific requirements: Personal preferences, location, and timeline may narrow your options. | A focused strategy: We prioritize the criteria that matter most and help you identify where flexibility could expand your search. |
Finding the right personal fit: A candidate may meet the practical requirements but have different expectations. | Carefully reviewed candidates: We help you look beyond the profile and consider communication style, expectations, and overall compatibility. |
A fragmented process: Contacting agencies, comparing profiles, confirming availability, and tracking timelines can become overwhelming. | One point of contact: Your dedicated case manager coordinates outreach, organizes information, and guides you through the next steps. |
At Donor Concierge, we broaden your options across a wider network and give you the tailored support you need to find the best match. Because no agency pays us for the referral, our recommendations answer only to you and your family.
What Makes A Strong Surrogate Match
A strong match brings together medical eligibility, practical fit, and shared expectations. The right candidate should align with your family’s priorities while fulfilling medical requirements. Key factors include:
We help you consider the full picture so you can identify a qualified surrogate who fits your family’s needs.
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Health and medical eligibility: Your fertility clinic reviews pregnancy history, deliveries, current health, medications, and clinic-specific requirements.
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Surrogacy experience: Prior experience can be helpful, but a well-prepared first-time surrogate may be an equally strong match.
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Location and travel: Distance can affect screening, embryo transfer, travel costs, legal planning, and your ability to attend appointments.
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Communication style: You should agree on updates, boundaries, appointments, and the relationship you hope to build.
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Lifestyle and support: A surrogate needs the stability, resources, and support system to manage pregnancy, travel, appointments, and recovery.
How Our Surrogate Search Service Works Step-by-Step
We manage the search across our network of established surrogacy agencies and curate a list of potential surrogates who align with your family’s needs. You get more options, personalized guidance, and a clearer path toward the right match.
Step 1
Defining Your Preferences and Expectations
Your case manager takes the time to understand your preferences and the criteria that matter most to you. We use those priorities to build a focused search strategy while identifying areas where flexibility could open the door to more possibilities.
Step 2
Identifying and Reviewing Potential Matches
We contact established agencies, confirm candidate availability, and review potential matches on your behalf against ASRM guidance and your clinic's requirements. Instead of sorting through every profile yourself, you get a curated selection of qualified surrogates who fit your most important criteria.
Step 3
Getting to Know a Potential Surrogate
When a potential match stands out, we coordinate the introduction and help you prepare for the conversation. We guide you through the decision so you can move forward with the information you need.
Step 4
Completing Medical, Psychological, and Legal Steps
After you confirm your match, we recommend an agency for you to continue your family-building journey. From there, your agency manages and coordinates the required medical, psychological, and legal steps. You and your surrogate work with separate attorneys to finalize the surrogacy agreement, and treatment begins once the appropriate professionals grant medical and legal clearance.
Surrogate Search FAQs
The surrogate matching process can take over a year with an agency. We can find you a surrogate match within a month. However, timelines vary with your criteria, surrogate availability, and clinic requirements. Broad preferences tend to shorten the search, and narrow ones lengthen it.
Yes. You can connect with your potential surrogate via a scheduled video call.
Your fertility clinic, a mental health professional, and separate attorneys each complete their required steps. Treatment planning begins only once medical and legal clearance is issued.