Who Can I Talk To About Infertility?
Each week at Donor Concierge we have a team meeting to discuss the week's work, which clients have been matched with which donors and other DC business. Often we talk about the struggle many intended parents face when getting to the stage of actually choosing a donor from the candidate profiles that we send them. Parents often freeze when it comes down to making the decision, with so many worries and issues swirling around. They feel stranded, with no outside emotional support to help them through this process.
What if I don't bond with my baby?
Will I see my donor's face every day when I look at my child?
Should I tell my friends and family that I used an egg donor? How will my child react when I tell her/him?
Going through infertility treatment is hard enough, and going through third-party fertility brings with it a whole other set of emotional issues. At Donor Concierge, we have trained counsellors on staff to coach you through the process of egg donation and using a surrogate. When you work with us to find an egg donor and/or a surrogate to build your family, we are a listening ear and a resource to help you through what can often be a frustrating, expensive and emotionally draining process. We're independent and have no vested interest in which clinic you work with, or which egg donor agency you work with. Our goal is to find you the egg donor or surrogate that is a good fit for you and your family.
We also work closely with organizations like Parents Via Egg Donation, an amazing non-profit for all those who use third-party fertility to create their families. Resolve, the National Infertility Assocation, has a wealth of resources on its website to help you understand all aspects of infertility and your options. To talk to a RESOLVE volunteer who has personal experience with third party reproduction, you can call the RESOLVE HelpLine at 866.NOT.ALONE (866.668.2566) and press extension 9.
Or you might find an anonymous online support network helpful. I found Fertile Thoughts to be a wonderful resource for finding helpful information from others going through infertility treatment. It's completely anonymous and a wealth of information and sharing of experience.
Michelle Laurie is a Senior Case Manager at Donor Concierge.